Sadd I know what you mean and am sorry to see you leave the ISIs Its too bad that people cant just see us for who we are not what some may think of the avitar. Would love to see you come back if you would change your mind. As always it is a pleasure to know you and you will always be considered a friend.
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Friendship & ISI
By saddsaxxOct 08, 08 05:11 PM

Have you ever had one of those days when you had two separate events occur and the results be at opposite ends of the polar spectrum? I have had one of those days! Let me explain.
I was recently extended membership into ISI, which I was flattered by and excitedly accepted! I believed that my friends would share in my excitement and be happy for me. I normally do not consider myself to be a naive individual or easily snowed, but there are always exceptions to every rule.
While playing at a table with some "friends" in the wee hours of this morning, I was asked if it were true that I was ISI. I happily replied "Yes"! Much to my surprise & dismay, one of my "friends" announced that we were henceforth no longer "friends" due to my ISI affiliation. I tried to explain that I was still the same saddsaxx, the same friend and the same individual. It mattered not what I had to say, the friendship had been dissolved in that instant. I had discovered this individual was a friend of the fair weather nature. Wanting to remain true to my own & ISI principles, I realized that I was now viewed differently, and saw verbal battles in my future despite the fact that I am the same as I have always been. ISI is a great group of people, but there are many individuals that see only the avatar and not the person behind it. I realized in that instant that I could not continue to adhere to the basic principle of being a decent human being if I were constantly beating my head against the wall trying to convey what others should know instinctively. I would constantly be arguing with someone and when angered, I don't play well with others.
So it is with deep regret that I have requested TexasHoldem remove me from ISI membership. Perhaps in doing this, I serve the ISI best as I will remain a decent human being, battling with no one and holding all friendships dear. I am comforted in the knowledge that TexasHoldem is and shall remain my friend and appreciates my feelings. As for the fairweather friend, you have lost much more than I. You have shown your true colors regarding friendship and what a fragile thing it is with you. You have won nothing and lost much, and I am not referring to our previous friendship. You have lost a sense of common decency, proven yourself unworthy of true friendship and one that is not to be trusted. As for myself, I shall remain the same saddsaxx - it will take a lot more than you to alter my sense of decency & true friendship. So, checkmate... I win.


COMMENTS
Gee... miss a day or two of playing and reading blogs and everything goes sideways. Saddsaxx, you are my friend and a great person. You may choose to don the ISI badge or not as you wish, but nothing can change the fun loving, respectful person you are. If someone refuses to see you in that light because of an avatar it's truely their loss. You are... and shall always be... my friend!
hate to say this guys but this pisses me off, I have no problem with the ISI or POW or any group of people working to make this site more enjoyable. All this talk of softplay and collusion is just loser talk, I actually enjoy the ISI and beleive they are honest but somewhat crazy. I would love to be an ISI but I'm not much for the group thing ; ). come on folks let's have fun and stop acting like children.
Hi Everyone, I did want to set the record straight about the isi. We have no internal structure. It truly boils down to if an isi notices a person with good table rapport we simply offer that person an isi badge. In turn that persons natural way will represent good play, good fun and set a good example. There is an isi forum on drcheckraise.com, please check it out. It's filled with who joined and isi fictional stories. We see each other by chance on the tables and soft play is not an option.
sadsaxx u make the perfect ISI, you are a great poker player and a great person always showing alot of class and u have respect for the players at your table, i dont see why they wud want to end your friendship, maybe they dont know the ISI are a group of fun loving people. cya at the tables and gl always
LIAM.
I know this all to well being the first isi I was ridaculed and lost many friends but I now I see I made the right choice seeing how the group has grown and I feel proud that I didnt turn my back on them when the going got rough
REJOIN ISI. You like them, they're fun, and why should you be denied the pleasure of a group because of some fool's gross comment. You represent their goals of comraderie at the tables. In denying yourself the pleasure, you're also denying them the pleasure of your official company. I've spent my life on the road less traveled. I got to meet some great people. Take that road and have fun.
Well so far I have never gotten any negative comments about me being an ISI, Maybe I have just been lucky. I am an ISI because it is a group of friends, nothing more meaningful than that. It is just to have fun and be part of a group of poker players that are nice to people on the tables. If I did recieve negative comments I wouldnt quit but that is just me. I have always respected your play and you as a person, it is very sad that someone did that, But I understand and respect your descision.
Well so far I have never gotten any negative comments about me being an ISI, Maybe I have just been lucky. I am an ISI because it is a group of friends, nothing more meaningful than that. It is just to have fun and be part of a group of poker players that are nice to people on the tables. If I did recieve negative comments I wouldnt quit but that is just me. I have always respected your play and you as a person, it is very sad that someone did that, But I understand and respect your descision.
NOw I am SADD, you are what ISI is sadd and we will miss you as a member. Remember, we are ISI to spread the notion of gracious, friendly, happy entertainment at the tables. You do that automatically, whether you fly the ISI colors or not. Therefore Sadd, you will always be ISI to the ISI because you are you.
i constanly hear all the slander about the isi's and never knew why. Seems to me they are a great group of ppl and very fun to have on the table, like everyone else said, dont let other people dictate who you are. If you were happy a an isi, by all means be one. It doesnt mean youre still not the same great person ive come to know. Gl isisadsaxx
sadd,
dont bend to an individual...make your self happy.. if joining a group of friends on an online poker site "offends" this fair weathered person, well then he/she is no freind...if something so insignificant (as this is in the big scheme of life) would upset one so drasticlly that it would cancel a "friendship" well then i would have to question that and not my ability to be happy
i hope every thing pans out for you...be true to yourself...not others
deadcow
towards people based on their race or even by just judging someone without even knowing them. Subsequently the word has come to be widely so interpreted in this way in contexts other than those relating to race. The meaning now is frequently "any unreasonable attitude that is unusually resistant to RATIONAL influence" - I have NEVER personally seen any "weak" play on the part of the ISI! U R & always have been (IMHO) a godsend 2 all at any table! Saxx5thAve, like Broadway, only nicer! Huzza
The word prejudice refers to prejudgment: making a decision before becoming aware of the relevant facts of a case or event. The word has commonly been used in certain restricted contexts, in the expression 'racial prejudice'. Initially this is referred to making a judgment about a person based on their race, religion, class, etc., before receiving information relevant to the particular issue on which a judgment was being made; it came, however, to be widely used to refer to any hostile attitude
I want to start by apologizing for any grief you received from being an ISI. I recruited you therefore I feel responsible. What was once a harmless group whose simple duty it was to protect the innocent and make one smile has been accused of soft playing, and just completely misunderstood. One can't change all the cruelty and ignorance that exists and I believe most people like it that way. You are a class act and will always be what the ISI stood for.
Chalk it up to....... nothing !!! Don't worry. As I can see, a few people have your back covered and are in your corner.
ISI or not u are and always will be a very good friend and always have my respect...I find it insulting that someone would say such things to u nor question if or the affliations with the ISI...Shallow Minds are only mirrors to one's shallow souls...Good Luck to your decisions...But remember good friends never judge another...Love Ya Sheeeeee
When I was about 10, my mother used the expression, "fair weather friends". Funny to hear it again, but its still a true statement. I don't know much about the ISI altho I've read the blogs. An official subgroup of SC has me a bit nervous. Will you soft play each other? You seem like people of character, so I hope that doesn't happen. In any event, good luck and be comfortable about traveling the road less traveled.
Hello my good friend, due to your kind nature I don’t believe you would argue with folks predigest against the isi; but I do believe (due to your gentle nature) that it would be very hard on you; taxing your experience here at SC. There is a good lesson to be learned here by realizing that many walk a bumpy path for no reason other than they are different than the majority. Always caring, Patrick P.S. Confrontation takes two; I just offer them a cookie and leave it at that. :o)
sadsaxx i have played with you at many tables andhave never witnessed a negitive comment. i agree with kobe you should stand your ground and tell your "friend" cya.
it is unfortunate, u can join me at POW too, we have no conflict with the ISI, I went through that too, my fav was when I was called sissy ISI. Ive been called pure moron cause I use to play on pu replay a lot, I had to give up being an ISI because of all the pressures from everyone. I hope u hang in there, The ISI are a super great group and deserve respect, my group on the other hand is just gonna go out kick butt and get even. I hope more ISI join POW, its a POWerful combination.ISI POWer.
It is unfortunate to see other poeples bad attitude and lack of respect. I personally do not think that you should allow other people do dictate what you do. From reading your previous comments it seems that you were very happy to be an ISI and took it seriously. I hope that you do what makes you happy and don't let "fair weather" friends influence who you are or what you do. Good luck on the tables.




hbkings
Hey Sadd GF, Wow @ ur blog! I am not ISI, nor have I been offered, but I would like to say one thing: The friend who judged u based merely on ISI, was never your true friend to begin with (sorry if u disagree). You are my BEST GF, and no matter what, I will never dissolve our friendship....so childish! Best friends forever....thru all. I mite tell ya my opinion, we may disagree, but will always be here and always love ya. I LOVE ur HUGE heart, and it's their loss! Smoooch ~ Lorene aka hbkings â™